What kind of partner will make the relationship strong
Recently, Shelly Gable, a professor of psychology at the University of Los Angeles, found that those partners who are accustomed to cheering for each other’s good deeds have a higher recognition of their relationship, a stronger relationship, and a lower percentage of breakups or divorces.
The research was published in the November issue of Personality and Social Psychology.
Gable’s research team selected 79 eligible couples (or couples) for this experiment. Each partner had a separate face-to-face conversation and took turns introducing each other to the recent positive and negative events in their lives.
They then complete a questionnaire about their satisfaction with the relationship, and then complete the questionnaire again after 8 weeks.
Researchers recorded the entire conversation of these partners, then watched the video, and coded the different responses of the listening partner, which were divided into two types: active introduction and passive echo.
In the former reaction, the emotions of the listener and the noticer are very consistent, and they actively express their emotions through words and actions.
For example, taking “hearing the news of a girlfriend’s promotion” as an example, the listener would say, “I’m so glad you deserve it!
“I know you have made great efforts for this promotion”, or it can be as simple as: “Dear, this is great!
“In the latter response, the listener’s response is not focused on the same emotional expression, but on other topics such as analysis, suggestions, challenges.
For example, responding to the above situation: “Are you sure you are qualified for the new job now?
“Can you bear this responsibility?”
Combining the results of the two surveys, the researchers found that actively investing in expressing the same emotions for each other’s affairs is beneficial to improving the degree of satisfaction of the relationship between the partners, especially the positive events.
Those cheering and elated partners who are cheering for each other’s good things are more satisfied with their relationship.
Subsequent repeated tests also proved that this was a long-term stability effect.
It seems that many times, partners don’t need to provide rational analysis and guidance to each other, and even more willing to find the same emotional sympathy in each other.
Gable suggested, “The joy of sharing good news with each other can provide many opportunities for the growth of the relationship.